Too Old to Be Afraid of the Dark?

Posted on Feb 5, 2013 by 2 Comments
Too Old to Be Afraid of the Dark?

I when I was about twelve, my parents let me stay home alone at one night. We lived in a fairly rural area and about a fourth of the property was covered with cedar trees. We also had horses that we locked in their stalls at night with their last batch of hay being given when we tucked them in.

On this particular night, I got engrossed in an old black and white vampire movie. By the time I realized I had not tucked the horses in, it was ten at night and dark.

Well, it was dark except for the large full moon with the clouds scudding across it. I got out to that barn and back in record time. It took me close to an hour to stop shaking from the adrenalin.

I was definitely too old to be afraid of the dark and yet, to this day, being in the dark makes me nervous. As you can imagine, I have a lot of empathy for those children of mine who share my rich imagination and dark-phobia.

Sometimes nightlights aren’t enough. Yes, I am one of those parents. My kids are welcome to leave a light on if that makes them feel more secure.

I just don’t think pushing people to do the things that they fear is healthy. I think they have all grown out of it by the time they are ten or eleven.

Is there a point in time when you feel kids are too old to be afraid of the dark? How do you handle that at your house?

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Marye Audet

Marye Audet is an author, freelance writer, and editor. As a work at home mom she has a unique perspective that encompasses the overwhelming deadlines and commitments of the professional woman as well as the constantly changing needs of a homeschooling mom with a large family. She is the author of one cook book and the creator of Restless Chipotle Media, a network consisting of two food based blogs, a blog for “women of a certain age”, a video site on Youtube, and upcoming blog on kitchen decor, and downloadable eBooks. Marye also is a freelance writer, editor, and book reviewer.

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  • MomHomeGuide

    My kids are in elementary school, and they are still a little afraid of the dark. I leave the hallway light on for them until they fall asleep. When they were in preschool, I used to have a nightlight in their room that can be set for the level of light that I thought would be best. (The light could be brightened or dimmed.)

  • Julie C.

    My more imaginative child needs a nightlight because his mind is busy at night and can often scare himself silly. The other one is asleep in minutes and has never needed one. I used to keep a nightlight on in the hall during those fun potty-training days (and nights)!