Should You Help with Homework?
To a certain extent, all parents should expect to be called upon to help with their childrenÃ¢â‚¬â„¢s homework at some point.
In the early years, youÃ¢â‚¬â„¢ll need to listen to them read aloud and later on you may need to translate some math directions. You may even need to provide some assistance with a science project.
The question is, is there ever a time youÃ‚Â shouldn’tÃ‚Â help with homework?
There are two times, as far as I am concerned, that parents absolutely should not help with homework.
The first is when you are the type of person who gives your child the answer. The whole point of homework (which I donÃ¢â‚¬â„¢t believe in, by the way) is to give children extra practice with new concepts or those that they are having problems with.
If you help them by giving the answer, theyÃ‚Â aren’tÃ‚Â learning the concept and youÃ‚Â aren’tÃ‚Â helping them at all.
The second example of when youÃ‚Â shouldn’tÃ‚Â help is if you are one of those parents who gets frustrated and angry if the childÃ‚Â doesn’tÃ‚Â get the concept, or if you are terrible about explaining how to do something. I homeschool and when I was busy, my kids would occasionally go to their dad for help with some of their work.
He was one of those people that not only explained things in the longest way possible Ã¢â‚¬â€œ he also got frustrated when theyÃ‚Â didn’tÃ‚Â get a concept. That does more harm than good. Anger almost always makes a kid feel stupid, and lengthy explanations just cause kids to mentally check out.
If you have to help your child with homework, you should explain the how-to in the most succinct way possible and leave it until your child asks for more help. Let him learn the problem solving skills that you obviously have already developed.