Maybe it has increased with the increasing popularity of pre-school pageants but there seems to be an increasing need to take preschool girls and create mini-teenagers.
- Earlier this year a New Jersey woman had charges brought against her when her six year old became sunburned in a tanning salon.
- Hair extensions for children as young as three and four are becoming more commonplace.
- Pre-school girls are increasingly wearing lip gloss and nail polish.
- It is not unusual, at least in my area, to see elementary children with highlights.
- Fashions for young children mimic those created for teenagers.
I just know that seeing a three year old with lip gloss and hair extensions bothers me â€“ a lot. Three year olds should be watching Bugs Bunny and playing with dolls, Candyland, and blocks. They shouldnâ€™t be thinking about Justin Bieber, boys in general, or if their butt looks too big in their new Juicy Couture togs.
Really, save that insecurity for later.
It seems to me that we dress the littlest girls up like mini fashion dolls and parade them around, encouraging them about how adorable they are. Then when they are teens we tell them to be themselves, outward beauty doesnâ€™t matter, and not to obsess over how they look.
Double minded much?
I remember sitting down to family dinners when I was a child. Certain things didnâ€™t change. Children had a glass of milk, a protein, a starch, and vegetables. You ate them before you were allowed dessert â€“ even the overcooked spinach (On behalf of the spinach, it was overcooked. I happen to adore it now).
A child drinking a latte was unheard of â€“ as a parent you would have been on the B list at every party in the neighborhood, right down there with the guy that mowed the yard in his boxers at 5 a.m. Now it seems that certain coffee shops are catering to the caffeine needs of the under six crowd.
â€œHad a rough night last night. Dreamed a purple dinosaur was trying to pull out my extensions. Gimme a skinny latte with a double shot of espresso, please.â€
Children are being pushed into adulthood so fast it is no wonder that many young adults stand blinking in confusion at their future. They are still trying to orient themselves in the blur of motion that happened between age four and age twenty-four.
It used to be that certain things happened at certain stages in your life. You looked forward to these events with great anticipationÂ â€“
- Being trusted to stay home alone
- Being trusted by a neighbor to babysit
- Allowed to take calls from boys
- First boy girl dance
- Driverâ€™s license
They happened in logical order. Nowadays not so much. A few months ago my daughter was incredulous as she answered her cell phone. A boy was asking to speak to my granddaughter who is ten. He was calling from his cell phone and thought that it was my granddaughterâ€™s number (she does not have her own cell phone). It caught my daughter by surprise â€“ she wasnâ€™t expecting to have to think about her daughterâ€™s social life so soon.
I am not sure why it is happening. I am only sure that I want to protect my children and grandchildren from the unfairness of having to grow up before they are ready.
What are your thoughts on the trend toward pre-school pretty?
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