Mommy Burn Out – Here’s How to Reclaim Your Life
Moms are more prone to burnout than most dads simply because the bulk of the day to day parenting responsibilities falls to them. Sure, there are exceptions, but the moms involved in those exceptions won’t be reading an article with this title, right?
Burn out can eventually cripple your entire life, but it doesn’t have to. There are ways to fight that zombie feeling and reclaim your life – real life.
Call it kicking back, call it feeding your spirit, call it whatever you want to, just get in the habit of doing it so that you can start feeling alive again. Here are some ideas to get you started.
- A walk in the woods can usually bring me back to reality. Sometimes when I need a breather I head to the back of our two acre property and just stare at the creek for a while. Connecting with nature is a great way to recharge.
- Instead of taking a quick shower, take a luxurious soak in the bathtub. Add scented bubbles, a glass of wine, some candles, and hang a Do Not Disturb sign on the door.
- Take a class at the local community college that isn’t work related. Pottery, art, photography, and culinary arts classes are all ways that you can enrich your life and revive your passions.
- Reread one of your favorite books from childhood, but do it right. Take a few hours, grab an afghan and a snack, and get in the comfiest couch in the house. Reacquaint yourself with Anne Shirley, Laura Ingalls, or Jo March (or whichever character you loved). There is something about rereading a favorite book from childhood that nurtures the deepest parts of you.
- Get a mani-pedi, massage, hairstyling, or all three. Let yourself be as pampered as you can afford to for an afternoon.
- Play hooky. If you usually drop the kids at daycare or school, get up and do that and then come home and spend the day with the remote or doing whatever you want. Order a pizza for dinner.
- Have a quiet time. Prayer, religious study, meditation, and uplifting music are all good ways to relax and revive.
- Change it up. If you usually grab a quick breakfast at the drive through, leave a little earlier and get breakfast at a restaurant or just take an alternate route.
- Wear a color that is something that you don’t usually wear.
- Get a feel good outfit and let it be your go to on those days when you feel bloated and unattractive.
- Splurge on a babysitter and have a night out by yourself, go out with a friend, or have a special date night with your partner.
- Write a mission statement. Sure, usually only businesses do it, but sometimes writing a personal or family mission statement can help you to refocus on your priorities, directions, and goals.
- Know yourself. When you feel burnout encroaching on the perimeters of your life, take immediate action to head it off.
- Stay focused on what is important. Your family, your friends, your ethics, and being true to yourself are all the most important parts of your life. What you do daily is done to support and nurture your family – don’t let work or chores become your taskmaster.
How do you avoid burnout?
photo credit: David Boyle