Mama’s Don’t Let Your Babies Grow Up to Be Female

Posted on Dec 21, 2012 by 2 Comments
Mama’s Don’t Let Your Babies Grow Up to Be Female

Do you have daughters? Do you find yourself increasingly worried about them when they leave the house?

Maybe it’s different with boys because they are bigger, stronger and the world just seems safer for them. Maybe I am wrong. I don’t know, I don’t have little boys but I do have girls, and each time I read the news, it seems like it gets a little harder to be a parent and feel like you can keep your child safe.

In 2010, a group of men took an 11-year-old girl to an abandoned trailer in Cleveland, Texas and gang-raped her over the course of four months. Her assailants ranged in age from middle school to a 27-year-old man.

One of the men accused of participating in the attack was a 20-year-old man named Jared Len Cruse. As the defense attorney is portraying the story in court, Cruse and twenty of his friends did have sexual relations with the child.

But since the girl said “yes” when asked by defense attorney Steve Taylor if she had been a “willing participant” and it was admitted that she hadn’t told anyone of the rape until after the sex tapes started circulating, we are supposed to believe that an 11-year-old was “the reason” that the men raped the child on videotape.

I have little girls, and this case scares me to death because if it can happen to this little girl, it can happen to just about any little girl. All it takes is a few minutes of being out of the watchful eye of a caregiver and a monster can swoop in and assault our children.

Worse still, other adults will try to convince us that our child was to blame for being in the wrong place at the wrong time.

I am calling bullshit on this situation. The adults failed this girl. First, grown men assaulted her and now she is being crucified for another one. Rape is rape. 11-years-old is not the age of consent in any state that I know of.

The only one culpable in a rape is the rapist. These men made the choice to harm a little girl who couldn’t make a decision or give consent because she was not old enough.

Children are taught to do what adults say, so when the adult takes advantage of that position, how can anyone ever blame the child?

The world has become a place where we feel that we need to teach our girls to protect themselves from being raped, rather than teach our boys that they cannot rape women. This attorney is despicable.

No adult should ever accuse a child of seducing a rapist. No man should ever accuse a grown woman rape victim of bringing it upon herself.

I don’t know if Taylor has a daughter, but I hope for his sake that he does not. I wonder if he would be so quick to defend these monsters if he had a daughter himself.

Then maybe he would have a little more compassion for a child who has been taken advantage of by the adults in her life.

Do you think a child can be held accountable for not knowing that they could say no to a rape?

Photo Source: Mike Baird

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Deborah Cruz

Deborah Cruz, aka Truthful Mommy, is the creator of the magic that is The TRUTH about Motherhood. She is a wife, a writer, fashionista, and semi-crunchy, work-at-home Ninja Mommy living in the Midwest with her two beautiful girls and her husband. Waiting on her children in pick up lines, she can likely be found chirping on Twitter and engaging on Facebook

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  • Joquena

    That is disgusting. I have two daughters and there is no way an 11 year old could be at fault. I agree young men need to be taught to respect women. And I think little girls should be in Karate instead of dance class!

  • Marye

    I have 5 boys and 3 girls. It goes both ways.If you look at the news you see teachers who seduce their male students … it is horrifying and disgusting whether it is a boy or a girl. Honestly, when it is a boy – especially if it is something that happens near adolescence, it is portrayed as more or less a coming of age thing by the media. Sexual stereotypes in the media? You bet! Of my 8 children one has been sexually abused. It wasn’t one of my girls. My youngest daughter is in karate… but so are 4 of my boys. :)