As our babies grow, they become more and more independent. That’s a good thing, right? But when my even-tempered, “good” baby threw a baby tantrum, it took me by surprise.
It was one of those days we were out of our routine, and of course, we were at a restaurant. She created enough of a scene I ended up leaving with heads turning as I took my screaming child through the door.
Was this part of growing into toddlerhood? Dealing with tantrums in kids who are around a year old is a little different than when they are older. They can’t quite grasp the cause and effect or that the consequences are directly related to their behavior.
In my case, it all started because my daughter didn’t want to sit in the highchair. I ordered her favorite finger food. Pancakes cut into little squares. This day they were not to her liking. This was beyond me, because she loved pancakes any other time.
The problem was, she was overtired. She’d missed her nap. I handed her one of her favorite toys and she threw it on the floor. Her crying escalated to more of a roar!
I asked the doctor about how to deal with tantrums, and he said at her age the best way was to avoid situations that sparked them. For instance, try to stick to a regular nap time. Hmmm, I already did that with few exceptions.
He also suggested that I talk to her about what’s going on to prepare her for changesâ€¦especially when she was overtired. For instance, when we arrived at the restaurant, I should have said something like, “We’re going to get something to eat here. Mommy’s going to get you some nummy pancakes.”
His last bit of advice is the one that struck me. “When your baby is emotional and throwing a baby tantrum, remain calm. Talk in a soothing voice.” I admit, I didn’t remain calm. I was an emotional wreck by the time I buckled her in.
She was asleep when we got home, and I was starving! I should have asked them to box my lunch, but I didn’t even think of it at the time.