Handling Tween Romance
You know itÃ¢â‚¬â„¢s going to happen eventually, right?
That cute baby will grow up to be an adolescent. All of those body changes and emotional ups and downs? YouÃ¢â‚¬â„¢ll feel them as much as your child.
The one thing about this season of life that most parents really arenÃ¢â‚¬â„¢t looking forward to is that first boyfriend or girlfriend.
I am dreading it. My kids just started school at a nearby charter school. They have been homeschooled all their lives, so it is a big change for all of us. However, since I have a 17 year old and a 14 year old, I am relatively sure that I will be dealing with romance here soon.
I have been thinking about what the rules are going to be and how it should be handled from my end.
Balance is the most important thing. I remember in my own adolescence that once kids paired up, they often became inclusive and other friendships fell away. I think that is dangerous.
ItÃ¢â‚¬â„¢s so easy for kids of this age to get completely enraptured by one thing, whether that one thing is a boy, a soccer ball, or a clarinet. ItÃ¢â‚¬â„¢s important to stress the need for them to maintain other relationships and activities.
Obviously any Ã¢â‚¬Å“datingÃ¢â‚¬Â will be done as part of a group. Phone calls will be limited. Obviously a more intense discussion about sexual activity is in order.
So, I guess IÃ¢â‚¬â„¢ll see what happens. Do you have any words of advice for surviving tween romance?