Most of my kids are night owls. In fact, out of the eight of them I think there is only one that is a morning person like I am.
I struggled through the baby years hearing that I should let them cry it out but I tried that one time and it was a disaster. I never minded laying down with them while they fell asleep — cuddling, whispering, and telling them stories.
The most frustrating times were when they woke up at three in the morning and wouldn’t go back to sleep.
Some may find help in a book, Parenting from Dusk ’til Dawn, written by Suzanne Thomas who is a child psychologist with some unique ideas. She suggests working with the child’s normal rhythms and scheduling play dates, birthday parties, and long heart to heart talks at three in the morning.
I am here to tell you that I have had a few heart to heart talks with my kids in the wee hours of the morning. They generally consisted of my begging, pleading, cajoling, and threatening my child that if he (or she) didn’t go to sleep I was going to be cranky and tired in the morning.
It wasn’ an empty threat. I am a morning person but I am not great when I am running on too little sleep. I can be bad enough when I have all the sleep I need. I am pretty sure I wouldn’t be up for a birthday party at three in the morning — or even four.
Would you consider having play dates and parties in the middle of the night? Seriously, has the world gone crazy?
Today’s link round-up has gift ideas, cardboard tube gnomes to make, a wreath, ways to escape at home, and more.
Crafts by Amanda showed us how to make cardboard tube gnomes.
Our Secondhand House shared 10 gift-worthy sewing projects.
Homemaking Hacks showed us 10 ways to create a quick escape at home.
Crafts ‘n Coffee taught us how to make a miniature Christmas village.
Create Craft Love showed us how to make a bottle cap Christmas wreath.
Cupcakes and Crowbars shared a recipe for ranch chicken and potatoes.
Photo credit: Crafts by Amanda and Kitchen Fun with My 3 Sons
At one baby shower I attended, the hostess asked each person to fill out a 3 x 5 card with the most important advice you’d give to a new mom on parenting. That’s a pretty tall order, and I didn’t have a lot of time to think about it. So I wrote the first thing that came to mind.
The hostess collected the cards and put them in a photo album and presented it as the last of the gifts. The mom-to-be sat there and read the cards out loud and it generated some good conversation.
My advice was to “Say what you mean and follow through.” We talked about how that means, no counting to three, or saying the same thing two or three times a little louder each time.
All that just turns mom into a nag and teaches kids that they don’t really have to do what you say until you reach “three” or they see you moving toward them.
The reason I even thought of it is that I had seen a mom struggling with a three-year-old in the grocery store because he didn’t listen. They happened to come out to the parking lot while I was loading groceries into my vehicle.
The little boy darted across the lot toward the street. His mom yelled, “Stop!” The child didn’t listen. He ran straight toward traffic zipping by like it was a game. The mom let go of her cart and sprinted in a panic to catch her boy just in the nick of time.
The mom meant it when she yelled “stop” but the child had not learned that the mother meant what she said when she said it. There was no time to count to three or threaten some punishment if he didn’t listen.
It’s important that we train our kids to do as they are told for their good. Not that we want to raise robots or expect kids to be perfect. It’s a process which takes a lot of work when the kids are little, but if we are consistent when our children are young, it makes for a lot less stress in the long run.
Photo credits: Lillian Zepeda
It’s 20 degrees and windy when you realize that you need milk. You throw on a heavy coat and wrestle your wiggly toddler into his smaller but similar winter wear. You strap him securely in the car seat, adjusting the straps to accommodate the jacket. You then buckle up your own seat belt never realizing that you have just endangered your child.
Most of us don’t even think about it. It’s just natural to put a child’s coat on when you go out in the winter. In fact, if you had your baby out in winter weather without a coat you might find yourself talking to Child Protective Services.
According to safety experts you should never put a child wearing a heavy coat in a car seat. In fact, when he goes in the seat he should be dressed in inside clothing like a shirt with a sweater over it.
Bulky coats hold the safety straps away from your child’s body, significantly increasing the chance of injury if you get into a car wreck or have to stop suddenly.
Car seats were engineered to secure your child with snug straps. A coat holds the straps away from the body so when you slam on the brakes, for example, your child is thrust forward into the straps with force. After all, there is space inside the coat.
When he has on regular clothing the straps hold him securely to the seat so there is not any excess movement.
They suggest you take the coat along but tuck a blanket around your child while he is in the car seat. You can also put his coat on backwards (as long as it doesn’t cover his face!) over the car seat straps.
Today’s link round-up has natural teething solutions, a peanut butter cup bar recipe, cleaning secrets, and more.
Muslin and Merlot taught us how to make glue gun snowflakes.
Kids’ Activities Blog shared natural teething solutions.
How Does She shared 18 of the best cleaning secrets.
A Beautiful Mess has a peanut butter cup bar recipe.
Olivia Cleans Green showed us how to make vegan lip balm.
A Beautiful Mess taught us how to make spicy peanut noodles.
Pizzazzerie showed us how to make easy, cute Thanksgiving fortune cookies.
Photo credit: Muslin and Merlot and A Beautiful Mess
I don’t know about you but I have about as much free time as — I can’t even think of a good analogy. I have no free time.
Between client work, my own writing, husband, kids, and house I barely have time to watch TV shows or read books that aren’t work related. It is an exhausting, overwhelming schedule.
I have two sons in speech therapy and a daughter that has some teensy learning challenges so I am no stranger to regular school meetings. They are always difficult to fit into the schedule and mean that I have to shift things around on those days.
Thank God they are not weekly!
I read about a New York State bill that would require parents to take four, out of a possible twelve, parenting courses or their children would not be released from sixth grade. Topics would include things like sexual orientation, suicide, and abuse.
The bill also requires employers to give parents paid leave to attend these classes, which puts even more of a hardship on small businesses.
On the one hand, I have met more than one parent that I thought could use a few parenting classes but I have to say that I am firmly against government controlled parenting. The mentality is that since parents won’t even come to parent- teacher conferences the only way they’ll come to these classes is if it is mandated by the state.
The flaw to that way of thinking is that if parents can’t or won’t get away to come to conferences they are not going to attend these classes and their child is going to be in eternal sixth grade.
The other issue I have with this idea is that the parenting classes are going to be biased, and maybe they will have a bias that doesn’t fit in with my belief system. Then what? I am still overwhelmed, still wasting precious time, and I am not even being helped. Personally that would cause an entire shipload of resentment.
It would be better for the state to offer help lines and counselors that the parents, and children, could contact on an as needed basis to get help with specific areas.
A neglectful parent isn’t going to worry about making one of these meetings and their child all ready has enough problems without worrying that they will be in sixth grade forever no matter how good their grades are.
The thing the government never seems to get is that there are always going to be people who fall through the cracks. Not everything can be mandated, and in fact, most things shouldn’t.
That’s were the local people come in. It’s why it’s important to have relationships with neighbors. Those that do fall through the cracks in the government programs can be scooped up by their friends, churches, and neighborhoods.
Good parents are already trying to be the best they can be. They are already researching, talking to other parents, and trying to do their best for their child. Neglectful parents aren’t doing that now, and they won’t do it because some lawmaker decided he needed to write a bill.
What do you think?
The other night when my husband and I went to bed, we found a carefully colored note leaning against the pillows. Even though I haven’t been able to spend a lot of time with you lately I want you to know I love you both very much.
It was signed by my ten year old daughter. Up until last year she was homeschooled and we spent all of our time together. This year she has become more involved with friends and school and she has her own life. It’s natural and it’s good but we miss the old days.
Anyway, I smiled when I read the note. I understood. I had to start working after spending most of my adult life being a stay at home mom. I work long hours now and I miss having time to sit and talk to the kids, watch television with them, or read aloud to them.
I feel like I am constantly trying to make sure that they understand that I would rather be spending time with them than with my computer. Apparently I have been able to get that point across and the note proved it.
We live in a world where people criticize very easily. We spend hours in a virtual world where people are constantly telling us how to be good parents. If that wasn’t bad enough we tend to compare ourselves to other parents. It’s time to start looking for things that we are doing right and take credit for them.
What are some things that let you know you are “doing something right”?
“What the heck?”
My 20 year old son had been quietly working on his computer in his room so this loud outburst sort of tore through the quiet of the house. In a few minutes he came walking into my room holding his phone and shaking his head.
“What’s up?” I asked.
“Apparently I am a father.”
Not something I want to hear from my unmarried children. Turns out it isn’t so bad. Someone had submitted his phone number to a site called Do Something. This group spends 12 hours sending random texts , random humorous texts, allowing your teen to virtually experience being a parent.
They get texts like, I know you’re running late bu-GRRGLE-BARFFFF. Oops, sorry about your shirt. Rappers spit rhymes, I spit up.
It’s great because it’s a non-traditional way to get your kids communicating about teen pregnancy. Since the messages are funny, and come over the phone your teen is more likely to interact.
When they text, the phone baby texts back. Teens talk about the texts among themselves and there is even more communication. Since the texts are about things that happen when you have a baby the cool aspect, that television seems to push, is removed.
I blew out a diaper, what are you going to do?
My son lost interest fairly quickly and texted, “Hey, it’s not you, it’s me. I am putting you up for adoption.”
The phone baby texted back, “Aww, it’s OK. I understand”
I swear, I had a tear in my eye. I thought the phone baby handled it very graciously.
When I was growing up, I remember missing my cousin’s wedding because I had the measles. I grew up thinking of it as a childhood disease everyone eventually caught, and in this day of vaccinations, most of us don’t know how serious it can really be. I remember having the rash and not feeling well, but for me the overpowering memory is that I had to miss the wedding.
Measles is a highly contagious respiratory disease caused by a virus. Back when I was a kid I didn’t realize it was a respiratory disease which spreads through coughing and sneezing. That’s because the thing that stood out to me was the rash.
The good news is that it is completely preventable with today’s vaccines. The bad news is that it’s making a comeback here in the U.S.
According to the Centers for Disease Control (CDC), from January 1 to October 31 this year there have been 603 documented cases of measles which were spread out over 22 states. This is the highest number since 1994.
So what do you think is the cause behind this? Some want to point to the people who have decided not to vaccinate their children, but they’ve been around since 1994 so that is not likely the cause.
The real problem is that measles are still a real problem in many other countries. According to a recent paper published in the New England Journal of Medicine, more than 20 million people still get measles each year, and of those 145,700 died in 2013. So Americans traveling should be sure to update their vaccinations.
Too bad we can’t do the same with the influx of undocumented people coming into the country. With them come measles and other painful and fatal diseases we’ve had under control for decades. With high vaccination rates and infection control procedures in place, this disease can be kept in check here in the U.S.
Symptoms of measles itself are inconvenient and uncomfortable and include fever, runny nose, red eyes, sore throat, and of course the rash. The real problem is that about three out of 10 people who get measles develop complications which can include pneumonia, ear infections, or diarrhea.
The worst side effect of measles can be encephalitis which can lead to deafness, cognitive delays, and lasting neurological problems. These complications are more common in adults than young kids, but why risk it if you can vaccinate against it?
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