Saying that parenting is a stressful lifestyle is a bit of an understatement, wouldn’t you agree? Even on the best of days there are all kinds of variables to be concerned about. Add more than one child into the mix and the chaos increases exponentially.
I’ve found that one way to deal with all of that parental angst is to keep a journal. I write down all of the things that I don’t want to say, all of the things that are bothering me, and all of the brutal honesty that my family couldn’t take if I was to allow it to burst forth in a torrent of emotion when I am angry.
It’s relaxing to spend a few minutes at the end of the day to just write it all out – the good, the bad, and the ugly. Sometimes it takes just a few minutes to unload my baggage for the day and sometimes it takes hours. The point isn’t how long it takes, or even how it’s done, but how much toxic waste you don’t dump on your family.
Well, and as a writer I have to admit that it is a great way to create a “scene bank” for use later in a book or as fodder for a parenting article.
When I’ve filled a notebook I pull out the best writing prompts (again, always a writer) and destroy the rest. After all, the whole point of keeping a journal is to keep your family from being damaged by raw emotion, right? Lately I’ve taken to using a folder on my computer – it takes up less space and is easier to hide. I do find that the act of writing with a pen is often a better release, though.
It isn’t that I use the journal to put my head in the sand. I still confront issues, handle discipline problems, and yell at the kids on occasion. The journal is merely to collect those things that I tend to say in the midst of a rage.
Words can wound worse than any physical punishment. My mother was a wonderful woman but she had the most poisonous tongue you could imagine when she was angry or frustrated. At nearly 54 years old I still have difficulty with some of the more painful words she spat at me in her anger.
While I am not perfect, and I can be rather poisonous myself having learned from such a talent, I prefer not to give my children long term wounds with my words or anything else. Especially as I have gotten older, it’s just easier to be quiet and wait until I have had a chance to get rid of the mean stuff I want to say and decided on the rational stuff I want to say.
It’s easy to begin. If you are going to be physically writing in your journal make sure that you keep it somewhere that it won’t be found and destroy it regularly. Journaling can make your life much easier and more peaceful but it will be a billion times worse if someone finds your journal and reads it.
How about you, how do you deal with parental frustration?
Back when I had my first baby, the doctor told me to keep my weight gain to 15-18 pounds for the entire pregnancy. Amazingly I did it.
Yet even with that, I’ll never forget lying on the hospital bed after giving birth, turning on my side and realizing that my flabby belly was resting on the bed beside me. As a first-time mom riding a hormonal roller coaster of happiness mingled with uncertainty that I was up to the job, it was a mental adjustment to say the least.
Would my body ever return to pre-baby fitness? What would I wear home from the hospital? Nothing would fit, so it was maternity clothes.
I can’t imagine what I would have done if had come home to a husband who called me “fat” or told me to quit being lazy so I’d burn calories. And all this when my daughter was two days old!!
No that didn’t happen to me, but that’s exactly what happened to one Georgia woman. She and her husband got into an argument after the dog pooped in the house and he told her to “quit being lazy and burn some calories” by cleaning it up. Remember we’re talking two days after giving birth.
During the exchange he told her he didn’t take off work to help her out after giving birth, but to have a “vacation.” He went on and threatened to leave her because she was fat!
She walked out the door and went to a neighbor’s house where she called the police for help in removing her personal belongings and the baby from the home. When the police arrived, the husband said his wife was only acting like that because of “female problems.”
These situations can be tricky for the police, but it turns out that when the husband told the wife to go f*** herself, he was taken away in handcuffs and charged with disorderly conduct. I have some good ideas for an “appropriate” sentence for this guy, how about you?
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Kate Middleton has been out of the public eye since Kensington Palace made the official announcement that she is expecting her second child with Prince William last month.
Just like when she was expecting Prince George, she is suffering from a severe form of morning sickness called hyperemesis gravidarum. It’s caused her to cancel multiple royal engagements including her first solo tour to Malta at the end of September.
However, it looks like she’s ready to step back into the limelight.
According to Us Weekly, the “Duke and Duchess of Cambridge are expected to greet the President of Singapore and his wife during a royal engagement on Oct. 21.”
The royal couple is scheduled to meet with their guests on behalf of Queen Elizabeth at the Royal Garden Hotel in London and as of now it looks like Kate plans to be there.
A Kensington Palace source told Us that the intensity of the Duchess’ sickness took everyone by surprise, but that the baby is well and that Kate Middleton is doing her best to stay healthy.
During her absence, she has written letters of apology. One such letter written when she had to cancel her appearance for the launch of The Art Room’s ninth center in the U.K. In it she says, “I am truly sorry that I cannot be with you all today as you celebrate this milestone. As patron of The Art Room, I feel great pride to see the work that the charity is doing. Vulnerable children flourish in the safe havens that The Art Room provides; this highlights just how important it is to support children at a time when they most need help and support.”
I hope she feels well soon as she presses forward to meet all her obligations. Part of me wonders if she is having another boy since this pregnancy is mimicking her first. I only say that because I experienced heartburn with my daughter but not with my son.
Time will tell, but I’d love to see them have a little Princess, wouldn’t you? No one knows officially how far along Kate is, but rumor has it the baby is due in April 2015.
Photo credits: The Incredible World
Police in Lauderdale Lakes, FL spotted a Dodge Stratus driving with a headlight out. They attempted to pull the car over, but the driver drove for almost another quarter of a mile before coming to a stop.
It turns out that the driver, 19-year-old Breona Synclair Watkins, used that time to have a 14-year-old male passenger in the car stash her 5-month-old baby boy in the truck because she didn’t have a car seat. She was trying to avoid being ticketed.
When the car came to a stop, the mom gave police a name and birthdate that did not check out. It was the name of the owner of the car who later said she hadn’t given permission for Watkins to use her car.
Watkins finally gave them her correct name and they found she didn’t have a license. They took her into custody and placed her in the backseat of the squad car. It was then that they heard crying and found the baby in the truck along with a tire iron, a used gas can, plastic bags, and other items.
What started as a routine stop for a burned out headlight turned into her arrest for charges including child abuse, resisting an officer, driving without a license, and failure to have a child restraint. I think if we asked her now, she’d prefer a ticket for not having the car seat.
Why on earth would any mom think of putting their baby in the truck? The fact that Watkins was already in the backseat of the squad car when the police heard the baby crying makes me wonder what she would have done if the baby didn’t cry. Would she have said nothing to keep herself out of more trouble? I can understand she was afraid, but the choices she made were not in the baby’s interest.
According to Watkin’s confession, the baby was originally being held on the lap of a 14-year-old minor when the police turned on their pursuit lights. She told the teenage boy to hide the baby in the trunk so she wouldn’t get a ticket for no car seat. That was all going on for the quarter mile the police followed them with lights flashing.
She bonded out on $7,000 and last I saw relatives are awaiting custody.
Photo credits: Hezakya Starr
Today’s link round-up has vanilla pudding without any added sugar, crocheting tips, a butterscotch caramel coffee recipe you won’t want to miss, and more.
Chocolate Covered Katie shared a recipe for sugar-free vanilla pudding.
A Beautiful Mess taught us some crochet basics.
Living Locurto shared the how-to behind butterscotch caramel coffee.
Mind Body Green talked about earthing, which is said to have healing properties.
I Love to Create showed us how to make a hanging pumpkin planter.
Blogilates shared a quick ab workout.
Photo credit: Chocolate Covered Katie and Kitchen Fun with My 3 Sons
Today’s link round-up has tips for detoxing your home, wine bottle pendant lamps, treats, and more.
Chocolate Covered Katie showed us how to make Nutella chocolate chip blondies.
Mind Body Green shared some tips from a pediatrician on how to detox your home.
Thrifty Nifty Mommy shared a review for the Graco Soothing Systems Glider.
DIY Inspired shared a cute makeover idea for a wooden bowl from the thrift store.
Jolly Mom shared a recipe for yogurt, fruit, and cereal popsicles.
I Love to Create taught us how to make wine bottle pendant lamps.
Photo credit: Chocolate Covered Katie and A Beautiful Mess
Want to avoid ugly stretch marks during pregnancy? Turns out that coconut oil may be the thing you’re looking for.
It keeps skin smooth, soft, and supple, and can help prevent stretch mark, and is said to even help existing stretch marks fade. However, they all fade over time so I’m not sure the coconut oil can be awarded this recognition.
However, it’s not all about stretch marks, it has other properties that make it beneficial. In fact, in recent years, some nutritionists have labeled it a superfood. Besides all that, it is a natural product that can be used from head to toe during pregnancy (and any other time) without worry of chemicals.
While all these uses are external, some suggest taking it as a dietary supplement as well. Wellness Mama talks about adding ¼ to ½ cup of coconut oil in smoothies or tea each day for its immune boosting properties and to support the baby’s brain development.
Before you do this, though, be sure to talk with your doctor to get his input. He knows your medical history and what is best for you and your child.
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Today’s link round-up has animal spools, a coffee cozy you can make, vanilla bean blackberry muffins, and more.
Chocolate Covered Katie taught us how to make vanilla bean blackberry muffins.
Handmade Charlotte showed us how to make your own mix-and-match animal spools for the kids to play with.
Sadie Seasongoods showed us how to make a coffee cozy.
Sumptuous Spoonfuls showed us how to make a pumpkin spice chai latte.
MBA SAHM taught us how to make edible finger paint.
Homemade Interest shared a Dutch baby recipe, which is an alternative to pancakes.
Photo credit: Chocolate Covered Katie and Meatloaf and Melodrama
Today’s link round-up has tips for being your own best friend, DIY funny face lollipops, a pet storage crate idea, and more.
My Own Home shared an idea for pet toy storage.
Handmade Charlotte shared an idea for making your own funny face lollipops.
Mind Body Green shared four ways to be your own best friend.
Tater Tots and Jello showed us how to make candy corn treat jars.
A Night Owl shared a recipe for easy no-bake pumpkin cheesecake.
Sadie Seasongoods shared a cute idea for something a little different to hang on the front door—a quiver, all decked out and ready for autumn.
Photo credit: My Own Home and Polka Dot Chair