Category: Mommy Stuff

Link Round-up: Sweets, Fashion Talk, Things to Do with Toddlers, and More

Posted on Oct 30, 2014 by No Comments

Today’s link round-up has cinnamon rolls, pumpkin pie, fashion talk, things to do with toddlers before they turn two, and more.

Chocolate Covered Katie showed us how to make mini cinnamon rolls.

Mommypotamus taught us how to make maca energy bars.

Cupcakes and Cashmere shared what makes a basic wardrobe item an essential.

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I Heart Nap Time shared a pumpkin pie recipe.

Rookie Moms shared a list of things to do with toddlers before they turn two.

Babble took a humorous look at a kid-free employee’s complaint that parents “get” to take extra time off when their kids need something.

Mom-Blog offered tips for going dairy-free without losing your mind.

Photo credit: Chocolate Covered Katie and I Heart Nap Time

Do You Feel Valued in the Workplace?

Posted on Oct 29, 2014 by No Comments

Dedicated people are the heart of any successful business, but I think many modern employers are failing to realize that their cost-cutting policies have a significant effect on employee morale.

I understand that businesses need to make a profit, but I also think that more companies could follow IBM’s example.

Early this year, the company announced that top executives would be forgoing bonuses to free up funds for essential research. IBM also invests heavily in the job satisfaction of its current staff members.

The company was among the first to offer paid vacations, group life insurance, and survivor benefits. In 1953, the company made headlines when the president sent out a letter saying that they believed hiring decisions should not be based on gender, race, or ethnic origin.

Today, IBM has a very family friendly work environment and is consistently one of the few technology companies honored by Working Mother as a top place for women with young children to find a desirable work/life balance.

Since technology has always been a male-dominated sector, I think this says a lot about the progressive nature of their management team.

Yes, these policies cost the company money. However, it’s a strategy that seems to be working for them. To date, IBM employees have earned five Nobel Prizes, five National Medals of Technology, five National Medals of Science, and four Turing Awards.

The company has held the record for most patents generated by a business in the United States for 20 consecutive years. Fortune ranks the company in the top 10 in terms of the number of employees, market capitalization, and profitability.

If you work outside the home, do you feel like your employer values your contributions? If not, what changes would be necessary to make you feel appreciated?

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Preemie Born at 23 Weeks Celebrates 1st Birthday

Posted on Oct 24, 2014 by No Comments

First birthdays are special, but for 25-year-old Rachel Crockett, the celebration for her son Conner marked a milestone many said would never happen.

Back when her water broke at 23 weeks, doctors delivered the bad news. Her baby was going to die. But when she saw his heartbeat on the scan, she knew differently. She knew she could save him.

Studies show that babies born at 39 to 41 weeks of pregnancy do better than those born 37 or even 38 weeks. When Rachel’s water broke at 23 weeks, her doctors told her she would miscarry.

In the UK, abortion is limited to 25 weeks or less. Rachel and her partner Craig Walkow told the doctors they wanted to save the baby, but even though Conner’s heart still beat, they were told her “case” would be treated as a miscarriage.

Desperate, they knew they had to find a specialist hospital to save their baby. They found one 39 miles away, but doctors said she couldn’t be transferred unless the hemorrhaging stopped.

Time was running out. She did the only thing she could think. She lied and said the bleeding had stopped.

They made the transfer to the John Radcliffe Hospital in Oxford and a day later she gave birth to Conner. She was only 23 weeks and two days along and the baby came into the world weighing only 1 pound 2 ounces.

“We thought we would never get the baby we always wanted, but I pushed them.” Rachel Crockett via the Daily Mail

Conner celebrated his first birthday in October, 2014. It was a milestone many didn’t think would ever happen.

Conner was in the hospital for the first 7 months of his life. He suffered many setbacks including fungal meningitis, perforated bowels, and a brain bleed. He also had to undergo eye surgery to have his retinas reattached after they started to detach due to a condition brought about by the ventilators.

While Connor has already faced more challenges than many children face their entire childhood, with more undoubtedly in the future, Rachel doesn’t regret her decision. In fact, now she calls on maternity units to do more to save babies who are routinely considered “unviable.”

She is also pushing to have the abortion limit amended to 20 weeks. She says, “I think the abortion limit should be lowered to 20 weeks – especially considering what happened with Conner. By then, you can see their sex – they are a person.”

Photo credits: wikimedia

Link Round-up: Avoiding Toxins, Healthy Meals, Fingerpainting with Starburst, and More

Posted on Oct 23, 2014 by No Comments

Today’s link round-up has tips for avoiding toxins while pregnant, treats, healthy meals, a new fingerpaint idea, and more.

A Beautiful Mess shared a giant skillet brownie recipe.

Mind Body Green shared 14 tips for minimizing toxins while pregnant.

Bitz n Giggles showed us how to make a Snicker caramel apple dip.

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Uncommon Designs Online showed us how to make monogrammed pumpkins.

Life a Little Brighter showed us how to make Starburst fingerpaint (that’s one idea for getting rid of the Halloween candy!).

Luv a Bargain shared a cilantro lime chicken with zucchini and spinach recipe.

Play Dates on Fridays took a look at some of the insecurities we have as parents and how they sometimes show up in daily conversations.

Photo credit: A Beautiful Mess and Uncommon Designs Online

Royal Baby Number 2 Due in April

Posted on Oct 22, 2014 by No Comments

Prince William and his wife Kate have formally announced their second child is due in April.

That ends speculation as to when, and amid rumors of a baby girl on the way, they did not reveal whether they are expecting another son or a little girl. However, the formal announcement did rule out twins by using the singular word “baby.”

Kate has been out of the public eye with severe morning sickness since September 8 when the world found out she was expecting again. Since then, royal watchers have been waiting for any bit of news or a glimpse of the popular Duchess of Cambridge.

As for the due date, now, we can quit guessing and mark our calendars for April, the same month the royal couple will celebrate their fourth wedding anniversary on the 29th.

“Their Royal Highnesses The Duke and Duchess of Cambridge are delighted to confirm they are expecting a baby in April 2015.” – official palace press release

As for Kate’s morning sickness, Kensington Palace has said that her condition is “steadily improving,” and if all goes according to plan she will return to her schedule of engagements on Tuesday, October 21, when she is to accompany her husband, the Duke of Cambridge, to welcome the president of Singapore and his wife.

The Duchess usually keeps quite a busy social schedule, so her absence has left a big hole. Along with greeting the President of Singapore and his wife, she is also planning to attend the Wildlife of the Year Awards Ceremony at the Natural History Museum on Tuesday evening. Only time will tell if she is really up to it.

Now that she will be back in the public eye, I’m sure we’ll be seeing every phase of royal baby bump number 2 and the Duchess’ maternity fashion choices highlighted at every occasion.

The baby will be a brother or sister to one-year-old Prince George and will be fourth in line to the British throne following Prince Charles (grandfather), Prince William (father), and Prince George (brother). While Prince George is a direct heir to the throne, the new baby is considered his alternate.

Photo credits: Paulo Carvalho

Write a Parenting Journal to Relieve Stress

Posted on Oct 17, 2014 by 1 Comment

Saying that parenting is a stressful lifestyle is a bit of an understatement, wouldn’t you agree? Even on the best of days there are all kinds of variables to be concerned about. Add more than one child into the mix and the chaos increases exponentially.

I’ve found that one way to deal with all of that parental angst is to keep a journal. I write down all of the things that I don’t want to say, all of the things that are bothering me, and all of the brutal honesty that my family couldn’t take if I was to allow it to burst forth in a torrent of emotion when I am angry.

It’s relaxing to spend a few minutes at the end of the day to just write it all out – the good, the bad, and the ugly. Sometimes it takes just a few minutes to unload my baggage for the day and sometimes it takes hours. The point isn’t how long it takes, or even how it’s done, but how much toxic waste you don’t dump on your family.

Well, and as a writer I have to admit that it is a great way to create a “scene bank” for use later in a book or as fodder for a parenting article.

When I’ve filled a notebook I pull out the best writing prompts (again, always a writer) and destroy the rest. After all, the whole point of keeping a journal is to keep your family from being damaged by raw emotion, right? Lately I’ve taken to using a folder on my computer – it takes up less space and is easier to hide. I do find that the act of writing with a pen is often a better release, though.

It isn’t that I use the journal to put my head in the sand. I still confront issues, handle discipline problems, and yell at the kids on occasion. The journal is merely to collect those things that I tend to say in the midst of a rage.

Words can wound worse than any physical punishment. My mother was a wonderful woman but she had the most poisonous tongue you could imagine when she was angry or frustrated. At nearly 54 years old I still have difficulty with some of the more painful words she spat at me in her anger.

While I am not perfect, and I can be rather poisonous myself having learned from such a talent, I prefer not to give my children long term wounds with my words or anything else. Especially as I have gotten older, it’s just easier to be quiet and wait until I have had a chance to get rid of the mean stuff I want to say and decided on the rational stuff I want to say.

It’s easy to begin. If you are going to be physically writing in your journal make sure that you keep it somewhere that it won’t be found and destroy it regularly. Journaling can make your life much easier and more peaceful but it will be a billion times worse if someone finds your journal and reads it.

How about you,  how do you deal with parental frustration?

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Man Arrested After Calling Wife Fat 2 Days After Giving Birth

Posted on Oct 17, 2014 by 1 Comment

Back when I had my first baby, the doctor told me to keep my weight gain to 15-18 pounds for the entire pregnancy. Amazingly I did it.

Yet even with that, I’ll never forget lying on the hospital bed after giving birth, turning on my side and realizing that my flabby belly was resting on the bed beside me. As a first-time mom riding a hormonal roller coaster of happiness mingled with uncertainty that I was up to the job, it was a mental adjustment to say the least.

Would my body ever return to pre-baby fitness? What would I wear home from the hospital? Nothing would fit, so it was maternity clothes.

I can’t imagine what I would have done if had come home to a husband who called me “fat” or told me to quit being lazy so I’d burn calories. And all this when my daughter was two days old!!

No that didn’t happen to me, but that’s exactly what happened to one Georgia woman. She and her husband got into an argument after the dog pooped in the house and he told her to “quit being lazy and burn some calories” by cleaning it up. Remember we’re talking two days after giving birth.

During the exchange he told her he didn’t take off work to help her out after giving birth, but to have a “vacation.” He went on and threatened to leave her because she was fat!

She walked out the door and went to a neighbor’s house where she called the police for help in removing her personal belongings and the baby from the home. When the police arrived, the husband said his wife was only acting like that because of “female problems.”

These situations can be tricky for the police, but it turns out that when the husband told the wife to go f*** herself, he was taken away in handcuffs and charged with disorderly conduct. I have some good ideas for an “appropriate” sentence for this guy, how about you?

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Kate Middleton Morning Sickness Waning

Posted on Oct 14, 2014 by 1 Comment

Kate Middleton has been out of the public eye since Kensington Palace made the official announcement that she is expecting her second child with Prince William last month.

Just like when she was expecting Prince George, she is suffering from a severe form of morning sickness called hyperemesis gravidarum. It’s caused her to cancel multiple royal engagements including her first solo tour to Malta at the end of September.

However, it looks like she’s ready to step back into the limelight.

According to Us Weekly, the “Duke and Duchess of Cambridge are expected to greet the President of Singapore and his wife during a royal engagement on Oct. 21.”

The royal couple is scheduled to meet with their guests on behalf of Queen Elizabeth at the Royal Garden Hotel in London and as of now it looks like Kate plans to be there.

A Kensington Palace source told Us that the intensity of the Duchess’ sickness took everyone by surprise, but that the baby is well and that Kate Middleton is doing her best to stay healthy.

During her absence, she has written letters of apology. One such letter written when she had to cancel her appearance for the launch of The Art Room’s ninth center in the U.K. In it she says, “I am truly sorry that I cannot be with you all today as you celebrate this milestone. As patron of The Art Room, I feel great pride to see the work that the charity is doing. Vulnerable children flourish in the safe havens that The Art Room provides; this highlights just how important it is to support children at a time when they most need help and support.”

I hope she feels well soon as she presses forward to meet all her obligations. Part of me wonders if she is having another boy since this pregnancy is mimicking her first. I only say that because I experienced heartburn with my daughter but not with my son.

Time will tell, but I’d love to see them have a little Princess, wouldn’t you? No one knows officially how far along Kate is, but rumor has it the baby is due in April 2015.

Photo credits: The Incredible World

Mom Hides Baby in Truck to Avoid Ticket

Posted on Oct 8, 2014 by 1 Comment

Police in Lauderdale Lakes, FL spotted a Dodge Stratus driving with a headlight out. They attempted to pull the car over, but the driver drove for almost another quarter of a mile before coming to a stop.

It turns out that the driver, 19-year-old Breona Synclair Watkins, used that time to have a 14-year-old male passenger in the car stash her 5-month-old baby boy in the truck because she didn’t have a car seat. She was trying to avoid being ticketed.

When the car came to a stop, the mom gave police a name and birthdate that did not check out. It was the name of the owner of the car who later said she hadn’t given permission for Watkins to use her car.

Watkins finally gave them her correct name and they found she didn’t have a license. They took her into custody and placed her in the backseat of the squad car. It was then that they heard crying and found the baby in the truck along with a tire iron, a used gas can, plastic bags, and other items.

What started as a routine stop for a burned out headlight turned into her arrest for charges including child abuse, resisting an officer, driving without a license, and failure to have a child restraint. I think if we asked her now, she’d prefer a ticket for not having the car seat.

Why on earth would any mom think of putting their baby in the truck? The fact that Watkins was already in the backseat of the squad car when the police heard the baby crying makes me wonder what she would have done if the baby didn’t cry. Would she have said nothing to keep herself out of more trouble? I can understand she was afraid, but the choices she made were not in the baby’s interest.

According to Watkin’s confession, the baby was originally being held on the lap of a 14-year-old minor when the police turned on their pursuit lights. She told the teenage boy to hide the baby in the trunk so she wouldn’t get a ticket for no car seat. That was all going on for the quarter mile the police followed them with lights flashing.

She bonded out on $7,000 and last I saw relatives are awaiting custody.

Photo credits: Hezakya Starr