One of the first things I thought about when I learned I was expecting was how on earth I was going to afford a baby. Then 13 months later I was pregnant again, despite using protection. Again, I thought about how I couldn’t afford another child, but he was born the following fall, and somehow we made due.
In this day and age where we are looking for affordable health care, a new study has taken a look at the increased medical expenses for maternal and infant care associated with IVF-assisted pregnancy. Women who turn to IVF to get pregnant run the risk of multiple pregnancies and according this study, expecting parents are faced with a cost of about $21,000 for having a single baby.
Those expecting twins can expect the bill to skyrocket to $105,000 and for those who have triplets or even more babies the cost is around $400,000. I was surprised by these numbers until I read that it included medical expenses for the mom for prenatal care and for follow up exams for the month following the birth.
It also includes expenses for the baby for the first year. Even with that, it certainly seems a daunting amount, doesn’t it?
When seeing the difference in costs for multiple births, and the higher rate of multiple births occurring due to IVF procedures, the researchers recommend looking for more strategies to minimize how many embryos are transferred during the procedure.
The authors of this study suggest that the increased use of Caesarean section combined with longer hospital stays for moms and babies related to multiple birth are directly related to the higher costs. According to their findings, 60% of medical expenses related to single births are tied to the mother’s care while 70 to 80% of costs are related to infant care with twins or multiple births.
With all that said, wouldn’t it be nice if the cost of having a baby was really affordable!
Photo credits: maessive
The natural thing to do when you get pregnant is to read everything you can get your hands on about how to have a healthy baby. You should stay away from caffeine, alcohol, and BPA. You should not use a hot tub, or strongly scented perfumes (they have chemicals that might be bad for baby), and you shouldn’t eat too much fish — especially tuna.
By the time you have gone through the laundry list of everything you should and should not do, you may be near hysteria and wishing that you’d never gotten pregnant at all. What were you thinking?
Forget it. Humans have birthed babies for numerous centuries and will continue to do so despite Monsanto, Margaritas, and gel nail manicures.
Having a healthy baby is important and you do have a responsibility to try to stay away from things that might have a negative effect on your baby’s health. You know, like crack or huffing insecticide, or something. You can’t protect your baby from everything that could possibly cause problems.
Guess what? Just because you manage to stay away from all of those things won’t guarantee that your baby doesn’t have some sort of health issue.
One of my kids has unilateral microtia, which is a fancy term for only having one ear. His other ear never developed and is really only a skin tag. I spent years kicking myself, trying to figure out what I could have done, and feeling guilty.
One day I decided to stop. You can’t control everything in life. Not everything can be safe for everyone. There is a risk to getting out of bed in the morning.
Pregnancy is a short season in your life. Rather than worrying about everything that could happen, concentrate on the magic that is happening. Believe it or not, you’ll miss this season when it’s gone.
Popular pop star and “Voice” mentor, Christina Aguilera announced her engagement to boyfriend Matt Rutler on Valentine’s Day via Twitter when she tweeted, “He asked and I said…” followed by a photo of the two them holding hands in a tropical setting and showcasing a hefty engagement ring. Since that cryptic announcement she has made it clear the two of them are planning to get married.
The couple started dating after Christina’s divorce from her first husband, Jordan Bratman, was finalized in 2011. While fans are excited for the couple’s upcoming nuptials, US Weekly raised another question. Is there a baby on the way?
In an interview with US Weekly, Matt Rutler’s mother said “I don’t know what their plans are, but when you have a baby you’re not planning on moving anywhere anytime soon!”
That sounds like a baby is on the way to me, but Christina is staying quiet on the matter, and I have to say I don’t blame her. When I was expecting, I didn’t really tell everyone about it until I was about 4 months along.
Christina met Matt when he worked as a production assistant on the set of “Burlesque” in 2010. Christina filed for divorce in October of that year and endured a painful split with hubby Jordan Bratman. Once it was finalized she started seeing Matt.
Early on in the relationship, she said that the two of them had a strong friendship and that “He’s the kind of person you could spend hours on the phone talking to and all of a sudden it’s daylight.” I’d say that’s a good start to a relationship that show promise!
If the 33-year-old pop star is expecting, it will be her second child. She has a 6 year old son, Max, from her first marriage.
Photo credits: Twitter
Simon Cowell and girlfriend Lauren Silverman welcomed a 6 lb. 7 oz. son into the world on Valentine’s Day at Lenox Hill Hospital in New York City. Cowell caught the first available flight from London to New York to be by Silverman’s side as she went into to labor. His first words with his new baby were an emotional “I’ve waited for you all my life.”
Two hours after the birth, the 54-year-old father took to Twitter to say “Very happy to say Eric was born at 17.45 pm. Healthy and handsome.” The baby is named after Simon’s father.
MailOnline reported “Lauren’s mother and sister were in the delivery room with them when she gave birth. Simon’s mother, Julie, is looking forward to meeting the baby in the UK.” Can you imagine going through your first child’s birth and jet lag at the same time! Reports say the new dad looked fatigued but happy as he left the hospital to head to his hotel for some sleep.
Cowell has kept fans updated since Eric’s birth through his Twitter feed. Shortly after he announced Eric’s arrival, he let everyone know “Lauren is in fine shape” and actually thanked people for their kind comments.
On February 16 he admitted “I never knew how much love and pride I would feel.” He’s posting pics and really showing a loving side some of us never suspected existed. I can’t help but think of what a curmudgeon he has always been as a judge, and now this baby comes along in his life and we see that there really is a sweet side to the music mogul. Just goes to show you how a new baby can melt a heart!
This is his first child and Silverman’s second.
Photo credits: Twitter
Today’s link round-up has a few recipes, Olympics bingo, tips for getting pregnant, and more.
Mod Podge Rocks showed us how to make an ombre wood beaded necklace.
I Heart Naptime shared her recipe for creamy tomato tortellini soup.
Prudent Baby showed us how to make cork drums for kids.
Bexlife shared her tips for getting pregnant, whether it’s your first or fifth time.
Brit.co taught us how to make cute last-minute Valentine’s Day lollipops.
Thirty Handmade Days showed us a cute DIY Olympics bingo game and provided printables of the cards.
Photo credit: Mod Podge Rocks and A Beautiful Mess
It’s easy to think we can eat as much as we want when we’re expecting a baby. The whole eating for two thing doesn’t really mean that, though. In fact, because the baby is so small the extra calories needed add up to about 350 per day. That’s equivalent to a moderate meal or seconds at dinner.
Recent research offers a whole new insight for why moms should concentrate on eating healthy — for the future health of their unborn child. Research published last week shows that eating a high fat diet while pregnant may be a factor in whether or not your child will struggle with obesity later in life.
The research shows that eating a high fat diet during lactation “predisposes the offspring for obesity” and “impaired glucose homeostasis in mice.” The research revealed a critical timing “when altered maternal metabolism disrupts metabolic homeostasis in the offspring […]” and shows that abnormal insulin signaling contributes to this effect.
This research was conducted on mice, but it does show we may be wiring our kids to be obese before they are even born.
Results suggest expectant moms should put forth all the more effort to eat healthy when expecting because if these results are right, a high fat diet may lay the groundwork for obesity by rewiring the part of the brain in our child that helps regulate appetite. This period of brain development coincides to the third trimester of pregnancy in humans and suggests that changing your diet even late in pregnancy may break the predestined cycle of obesity.
So if you’re pregnant, forget about eating what you want and how much you want to satisfy a craving, and think instead about your baby. Avoid setting the stage for obesity for your child and consider making healthy choices during your pregnancy. It can help your child in the future, and it can help you avoid putting on extra pounds you’d be left with after the baby is born.
Photo credits: Wikipedia
Today if you find out you’re expecting twins there’s a 3 in 4 chance you’ll be expected to schedule a date for a Cesarean section. However a recent study questions the need for C-sections, especially with the number of people expecting twins due to infertility treatments.
The study published in the New England Journal of Medicine looked at 2,800 pregnant women in 25 countries. All of the first twins to be delivered were in a “good position” which suggests a C-section may not be necessary. However, half of the moms-to-be were scheduled for the surgery early on.
Of the non-scheduled group, 40% also ended up having a C-section with only 10% of the babies being born vaginally. The study concludes that “the results do not indicate all sets of twins should be delivered vaginally,” however Dr. Michael Greene of Massachusetts General Hospital implies that C-sections should be less routine. Instead the procedure should be used as a reasonable choice when the doctor becomes aware of a potential complication.
Sounds like common sense to me and I’m happy to hear that more doctors are thinking hard about the need for C-sections for twin births. Each pregnancy is unique. Twins do have more risk for birth complications, and this is why some studies have suggested a C-section helps lower the risk, but if the babies are in a good position, should a C-section be automatic? I think not.
The study concluded that “in twin pregnancy between 32 weeks 0 days and 38 weeks 6 days of gestation, with the first twin in the cephalic presentation, planned cesarean delivery did not significantly decrease or increase the risk of fetal or neonatal death or serious neonatal morbidity, as compared with planned vaginal delivery.”
If you’re expecting twins, it’s worth talking with your doctor about all your options.
Photo credits: isafmedia
My youngest child just turned ten and my youngest grandchild started school this year. It’s been awhile since I enjoyed that new baby smell.
Oh, guys can have their new car smell. I think there is even a car scent thing you can have put in your car to keep it smelling new. Still, it has nothing on that undefinable, indescribable new baby smell. It is just Heaven.
Well, here’s an interesting idea from a study in Frontiers in Psychology. According to research, that newborn baby smell kicks the pleasure center of a mom’s brain into overdrive. It is literally intoxicating, and it doesn’t matter whether that baby is yours or someone else’s.
Researchers studied 30 women, half who had recently given birth and half who had never had a baby. The women were in a brain scanner and then surrounded with the smell of a newborn baby or fresh air. All of the women reported that the newborn scent was wonderful but the response in the brains of the mothers was much more intense than in the brains of the women who had never given birth.
They suspect that research with men will result in similar conclusions.
It’s no wonder that many women experience a sharp drop in libido after birth! Their pleasure centers are satiated. The research just proves something that I always knew was true. Babies are crazy addictive.
Do you think that the research is valid? Do you have a thing for that newborn baby scent.
Exercise during pregnancy is good for you and for your baby. Often pregnancy means modifying our routine, but ballerina Mary Helen Bowers has danced throughout her pregnancy with her doctor’s blessing and documented her ever-changing body on Instagram.
Sometimes when I hear about women weightlifting, or running a marathon when pregnant, I just about can’t comprehend it. I was a walker and watched my diet and that was enough for me!
The rule of thumb is that if you are active before pregnancy, you can continue that activity in moderation. For Bowers, who danced 10 years with the New York City Ballet and now runs a company by the name of Ballet Beautiful, her pregnancy was naturally incorporated in her routine.
“I’ve really been amazed by how active I’ve been able to be and how much my body has been able to do. It’s a beautiful time. You feel connected to your body on a level like never before.” – Mary Helen Bowers via Today.
Her company is more than a dance studio, though. The 33-year-old offers ballet-inspired fitness training which features targeted exercises designed to sculpt and tone. Bowers has used these moves to maintain her strength and grace as a ballerina and she offers online classes and streaming Blast videos along with her live classes.
This is one form of “exercise” that strengthens the core, is not hard on the joints, and helps to sculpt muscles. I’ve always admired the willowing ballerina form, and while I don’t see myself looking quite like that, I think I may just look into her online classes to see if that can work for me. If you watch her video it is inspiring!
Photo credits: Pregnant Model 71