Can Little Kids Get Depressed?
I’ve come to realize something very important, 2nd grade is a turning point in a child’s life. Education gets serious. The last couple of years was playtime, but second grade is planners, hours of homework and organized activities and there is no more time for childish games. Suddenly, everyone is serious. This is hard for little kids to understand.
Second grade is when our children really begin to take it all in. It’s the year that grades are beginning to count and teacher’s expectations are raised. The carefree, reckless abandonment of preschool disappears.
Clothes are starting to not fit right because of growth spurts. Second graders are too old for flowers and polka dots but, in my mind, are not ready for spaghetti straps and denim cutoffs. My daughter is in second grade, not middle school, why are the clothes that fit her height made for kids with boobs and sex appeal?
Kids at school are starting to have later bed times, watch different shows and think in a way that my daughter is not ready to do. Being that they are 7/8, they like to refer to the “younger” children as babies. I’ve known this and I’ve told her to ignore them because to me, it doesn’t seem like a big deal. But to her it is and that is what counts.
I’m a grown woman. I know that being called a baby may hurt but in the end it’s not important, but when you are 7-years-old it is everything. I sometimes forget that to children, the grand scheme of things doesn’t extend past their tiny world.
Kids are labeling one another boyfriend and girlfriend and cliques are forming. Kids are starting to feel left out. It’s painful to see our children flounder in this part.
It’s not like when she was a toddler. I can’t just make everything alright because she is old enough to have real thoughts, feeling and opinions. When she comes to me upset, all I can do now is listen and offer advice.
I can see her feeling overwhelmed in the swarm of change; the expectations weigh heavily on her tiny shoulders. As the parent, we need to remember that sometimes we overlook the tiny stresses that our children are experiencing. What doesn’t seem important or may be even silly to us, can be monumental to a small child.
There is nothing sadder in the world than a sad, deflated and overwhelmed child. No child deserves to feel that way, ever. My daughter, amongst all the other changes, was getting bullied.
It’s miserable to feel so helpless, but I am so glad that after a breakdown and lots of tears, my daughter confided in me. As parents, we need to stay aware of what is going on in our children’s lives, who their friends are, how their days went and more importantly, how they are feeling. Being overwhelmed is like drowning in sadness and obligation. I wouldn’t let my child drown in water; I won’t let them drown in sadness.
What would you do if your child was depressed?
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