Baby Shower Etiquette Has Changed
Baby shower etiquette has relaxed in a few areas over the years. For one, these special events used to be for women only, and now it is common to hold co-ed parties for the mom and dad-to-be along with all their friends.
The one thing my family has tended to adhere to was the fact that the mother or sister of the mom-to-be was not to host the shower. My mom would say that people who did that “look like they don’t have any friends.”
That isn’t exactly the “why” behind this shower etiquette rule. According to baby shower etiquette of the past, those whose mom or sisters hosted the shower were said to look like they were soliciting gifts. I have to scratch my head on this one.
Who would have a baby shower and not expect any gifts? Isn’t that idea behind a shower? Luckily, that rule has relaxed as well and today it is common for sisters and moms to host a baby shower along with good friends or other family members.
Recently, a small group of us decided to give a shower for a good friend who was expecting her fifth child after a gap of 12 years. Etiquette traditionally says a shower for a child other than the first should be smaller with only very close friends and family invited.
While her baby was the fifth, it was also like a first because they didn’t have a single baby thing left in their home. They had thought they were done with the baby stage. Surprise!
And that’s just what we did. We surprised her with a baby shower and it was pretty good size. No one attended out of obligation. We were all excited for the mom and dad-to-be. They were still kind of in shock even when the baby was a month from arriving.
The shower encouraged them and today their little guy is 6 months old. Their first boy. In my book that alone was reason enough to have a shower.
Photo credits: personal photo used with permission, jula julz