School is quickly becoming the bane of my existence with all the germs that keep cycling through my house due to kids coming to school with runny noses and coughs and who never even consider covering their mouths or washing their hands and now, it’s like lice has become an epidemic.
In fact, just the other day I was wondering why my girls hadn’t brought home a note about anyone in their class having lice. I thought hey, maybe going to a private school has paid off and these kids just aren’t getting lice like the rest of the country. I was cocky even.
Then I read about the new less restrictive head lice policies that are sweeping the nation.
The new policy allows children with live lice bugs in their hair to return to class for the remainder of the day. Schools figure that by the time a child is diagnosed with lice they’ve already had it for a few weeks so exposure has already happened.
I can see their point but at the same time, I’d want to be called immediately to remove my child from school and get started on delousing them. I know I am a bit neurotic but at the same time, I think other parents would be grateful if my child were the one with lice and I took swift action to correct the situation.
Many school nurses are not even sending home letters to parents of classmates of children with lice because they don’t want to humiliate the child with lice. This has parents fuming.
I understand not wanting to shame a child for having lice but how are we supposed to stop the breakouts if the rest of us don’t even know to check our kid’s heads for lice? Am I supposed to add, “Check kids heads for nits” to my nightly ritual, just in case?
I just want to know if my girls have been exposed to live lice so if they have it, I can treat it, not pass it around.
Both of my daughters have always had beautiful, long, blonde hair so I have always taught them not so share coats/hats/brushes and to keep their heads away from other people’s heads. I’ll admit they have taken it a bit to the extreme, even yelling to their friend in preschool, “No you can’t wear my necklace, I don’t want your lice!”
I understand not wanting to embarrass a child for something he/she has no control over but it’s not like the lice exposure requires a name of the child who has it. Let’s just send a discrete letter warning unsuspecting moms that their precious little one might be crawling with bugs so we can act accordingly instead of doing nothing.
I promise I won’t tell my kid who has the lice. I don’t even care who it is. I just want to get rid of it.
Would you want to know if someone in your child’s class had lice or do you prefer the wait and see technique of dealing with lice?
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Back-to-school is a chaotic time of year. Children and parents alike are trying their best to get back into a groove. It’s hard coming off a summertime full of sleeping in, staying up late and hanging out at beaches and having fun.
When August rolls around, it’s a hard transition period for children and parents alike. The first couple of weeks are the hardest. Bedtimes seem to come early and wake up calls even earlier.
If you are like me, I do much better at preparation if I have a list to work from. So, here is a small list of things that I think can help get the whole family back on track after a long summer of relaxation.
How do you get back into your back-to-school routine?
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One of the hardest things for new moms to do after giving birth, aside from learning to keep the tiny person in their life alive, is going back to work after maternity leave. Most women find themselves torn because, while they might love their career, many of us are completely overwhelmed and blindsided by our attachment to our newborn babies.
I thought for sure I’d go back to work and leave my baby in the onsite daycare at the university but once I held her, it was all over.
I realized pretty quickly that I couldn’t leave my girls when they were newborns and luckily my husband’s job allowed me that luxury. I also knew I needed to work, so when they were newborns, I found work from home tutoring college students online.
I was lucky. But sometimes there is no choice and you have to go back to work, whether you want to or not. If you’re going to return to work after maternity leave or after taking time off to stay home, why not go back like a boss?
The first thing you’ll need to do is secure childcare that you feel completely comfortable with. That will be your biggest hurdle to returning to working outside the home.
Next, you will need to get a non-spit up covered wardrobe put together. Believe me, my girls are 8 and 6-years-old and I still have to do a foreign body fluid check of my clothes to make sure it’s public worthy. It’s not easy switching gears from cooing at a newborn all day to having actual conversations with co-workers. You need to mentally shift gears.
It will be hard in the beginning to separate Mommy you from corporate you. Obviously. You are always mommy first but when you are in the office, try to stay focused on your work and career goals.
Sure your baby is still the cutest baby ever, but try not boring your co-workers with a constant barrage of photos of your baby in the tub or spitting up. Soon, they will all be running the other way when they see you coming in their direction.
Use work as a chance to get some “me” time, meaning focus on you the person instead of just you the mom. Use all that time at work to focus on your projects and show your boss that motherhood has only increased your multi-tasking skills.
Be professional when you are at work. It will be hard those first few mornings to leave your precious little baby, but once you get to work, get into work mode. You can’t spend every moment obsessing over the webcam in your baby’s nursery.
Set aside certain times to check in on your baby, let your caregiver know that you cannot have constant phone calls and emails when you are at work unless it is an emergency. If not, you will run the risk of looking unprofessional and possibly losing your job.
Keep a schedule. Sure, as a mom, there will be situations that you will have to make allowances for like running a sick baby into the pediatrician’s office, or if your caregiver gets sick or doesn’t show up. You can’t prepare for these things but plan well visits around your work schedule and if you must be late or miss a day, make it up by working through lunch or putting in hours from home.
Prove your dedication to your job to your boss. It’s not an easy situation to get a handle on but with time, it will get easier to balance the two.
What’s your best tip for going back to work after having a baby?
There is an age-old battle between the working mothers and the stay-at-home mothers that is as old as time, but there is a new breed of working mothers who are straddling both worlds.
This is difficult considering that you are working where you live. You are living where you work and you are raising children simultaneously while doing so. From personal experience, I can say that it is undoubtedly the hardest thing I have ever done but working from home allows many moms to work full-time and still enjoy their children.
During the day, working in a dedicated office while children are in the school is the ideal job, unless you have children who are still at home or who do not respect the borders of the office. Let’s face it; toddlers and preschool aged kids have no regard for a do not enter sign that they most likely cannot even read.
Many people hear that a mom works from home and instantly assume that she must have the best and easiest job in the world. She makes money to help support her family all while being home and tending to every need and want of her children.
Only that would be fabulous if there were two of her; instead she works while answering every “why” question of her 3-year-old. She takes business calls in her yoga pants while on mute so associates don’t hear the dog barking and toddler crying in the background.
This same woman spends what would be her “breaks” making snacks, rocking babies to sleep and wiping butts. There are no pauses in her days. No commute to decompress. There is only her intertwined work and home life that never seem to diverge.
While nearly 30 million Americans work from home at least once a week, telecommunicating is still extremely misunderstood. People think that working from home means not working. I assure you that this is not the case. Working from home is fantastic because you are spending more time in the home, but at the same time it is a constant state of worlds colliding.
It’s a delicate balancing act but there are some pros for mothers who work at home.
Telecommuting allows a mother to be engaged at work and still be at home.
Long commutes stuck in traffic are costly and challenging because of wasted work time stuck in transit. If you work from home, your day starts the minute the kids get on the bus and can end promptly at 4:59, rather than tacking on an hour each way away from family on the road.
Telecommuting allows moms to stay visible in the workforce.
Work-from-home balance split between days in the office and at home allows a mom to be home with her children and still visible at work via occasional days in the office, work share and via teleconferencing. It’s awesome if you want to be hands on while your child is small, yet not relinquish your career entirely.
The bottom line is that being a work at home mom is harder than it looks and takes a lot of organizational skills. It is a labor of love and if you want my real and honest advice, to do it you will be at home but you would be wise to invest in a maid who comes once a week, and a nanny to watch the children while you are working in your office is a must or you will end up failing on all accounts.
How to you balance work and home life?
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If there were foods that could insure that you had a better, stronger, longer, more frequent orgasm, would you eat those foods? Of course you would; everybody would. Who doesn’t want better, stronger, longer and more frequent orgasms? I think most of us would eat them if there were just the slightest chance that it worked.
Well, believe it or not there are certain foods that are believed that simply by eating them they will get the blood flowing to all the important parts. Here is a list, just in case you want to make a meal that will give you a night to remember.
Here is the list of some of the most o-inducing foods you can eat:
The hotter the pepper, the more hot and bothered you will find yourself. Peppers increase metabolism and get blood flowing to all the body parts, even the good ones. So next time you find yourself all hot and bothered, make the most of it.
Not only are oysters an aphrodisiac; they’re also rich in zinc, which helps with the production of testosterone. So while the oysters get your motor revved up, they can also help get your partner’s sperm count up, which could be beneficial if you are trying to conceive.
Dark chocolate, like oysters, is a known aphrodisiac. I know that a good piece of chocolate can change my entire mood. That’s because it helps release mood-altering serotonin in the brain. So next time you are in the mood for a little ecstasy, have a piece of dark chocolate and see where the night takes you.
Vitamin C keeps sexual organs satisfied. If you eat an orange or grab a glass of OJ, you can help keep yourself sex healthy.
Asparagus is my favorite vegetable anyways but apparently, this yummy green veggie is also rich in folate, which regulates the production of histamine. Histamine is the chemical released during orgasm. Eat some asparagus and get a jumpstart on your sexual appetite.
Watermelon is natural Viagra. Who knew? So if your man is having trouble getting an erection, skip the little blue pill feed him a big bowl of sweet, juicy watermelon. It’s definitely cheaper than Viagra and no pesky side effects like a 4-hour erection to contend with.
Have you ever tried any of these foods? Did they work? Just imagine the possibilities if you made a meal of all these foods at one sitting?
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I woke up this morning, an hour earlier than usual. It probably has something to do with my recent push to actually get some sleep. I was beginning to feel that sleep deprived state where you feel like you are in a fog.
Speaking of which, I awoke this morning with the remnants of a bad dream lingering on the horizon. In this dream, my husband tells me that he “likes” my friend. You know like when you are in elementary school and you “like” a boy. This is not what any woman wants to hear from her husband about her girlfriend, especially when she is your complete opposite.
Dream or not, it stabs a little bit. The laundry list of what he liked about her went on for what seemed like forever, which I suppose it would if you had to listen to your husband list why he likes another woman more than you. It was all like a horrible, cruel joke; a nightmare really.
I woke up feeling mocked, flawed and insecure. I’ve never felt so vulnerable and raw in my entire life. I’m not sure if this sleep thing is for me, if this is the side effect of sleep. I don’t like feeling so exposed.
It’s made me think hard about some things. Sometimes we spend so much of our time as Mommies powering through life that we never take the time to actually dwell on things like we did before we had kids.
That is usually a good thing because it saves us from living like lovesick teenagers; worrying about every look, glance, hidden meaning behind every word or gesture, second-guessing our relationships. But maybe sometimes we need to be reminded that we are not just Moms, who have to be strong for everyone, we are women. Living, breathing human beings who have wants and needs of our own and that’s okay.
Sometimes we need to invest some time dwelling on our relationships with our spouses and ourselves. After all, they fell in love with soft young girls, who doted on their every breath and hung on every word. My husband met me when I was 25 and in the best shape of my life, physically. I used to turn heads when I entered a room. I was vivacious and full of life.
I know we don’t have time for such niceties as lingering looks and 2-hour tub soaks everyday with the house falling down around us, kids swinging from the chandeliers, bills to be paid, and laundry to be done, but I think my dream was a reminder that I need to make more of an effort to be just me when he and I are alone. I need to look at myself as a woman and not just a mother because if I don’t, no one else will either and that can’t be good for any relationship.
Mommy mode is too high powered to remain in 24/7; if we stay on mommy mode we will burn out our motors and then we will be of no use to anyone.
How do you make time for yourself and your marriage when you have young children?
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I have two wonderful daughters that I adore. These two kids are my reason for waking up every morning, quite literally – I have to drive them to school. But figuratively, they are my sunshine. That being said, sometimes their behavior can be maddening. I mean, stark raving lunatic crazy.
For instance, when bedtime rolls around, my 6-year-old begins her “JUST 5 more minutes (of TV). Please Mommy!” chant. To which I answer, every night, “No, honey. It’s bedtime. You HAVE to go to sleep.” And most nights she replies, “You are the WORST MOTHA EVA!!!!!” Wow, I didn’t see that coming. Oh, wait. Yes I did because its our bedtime ritual.
Some families like to read and cuddle at bedtime, not us. We like to have a full on drag out cage match. When the 6-year-old was 2-years-old, she got stuck on “no” mode.
“Honey, let’s take our nap. ”
“Come on, you need your rest.”
“Get your butt in the bed before I hurt you!” (I jest. I never said that, not usually. I think it a lot but don’t say it).
The point is, no matter how combative my children have ever decided to behave or what craziness they decided to throw at me on any given day, which could truly be any thing, I have to maintain my composure. I’m the adult. Right?
Sometimes I feel like I am running through a mine field with crazed chimps throwing poo at me, that’s how bad it gets…some days! Then other nights, after their bath, before that first heavy lid drops, it’s all cuddles and kisses and “I love you more”s and that makes all the poo dodging worth it on the rest of the nights.
Finally, the good bedtime rituals are beginning to outnumber the bad bedtime ritual nights.
Here is what works for us:
What doesn’t work:
These are what we’ve found works for us at bedtime over the past 8 years. These rules are made to be broken. On special occasions and when we travel, the girls get a later bedtime but they also sleep in longer. The key to a happy child (and parent) is sleeping for enough hours each night, for my kid that is about 12 hours.
What is your best time ritual tip?
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Do your kids come right home from school and get started on homework? My girls like to play the dodge and weave homework game. They are the princesses of procrastination. I can’t say that I don’t know where they got it because I do, and I also know that this is not what I want for them.
I understand that they are children and preferring to play over doing homework is natural, but I need to start instilling these good study habits now before they are adults dodging deadlines and procrastinating putting together presentations.
Here is a plan to assist your child in developing successful homework habits that will help him throughout life.
Set aside homework time
In our house, homework is done immediately after my daughters come home, following a snack. They know that from 3:45-4:45, they will be doing homework Monday through Friday.
We know that our daughter loves doing her math and isn’t so crazy about rehearsing her violin, so violin is done for the first 20 minutes, followed by her reading log and we end with her math worksheet because it is short and her favorite subject.
Quiet spot to do homework
My daughters have a desk & chair in their room where they do homework. No, television, radio or any other electronic is allowed in this space unless it is directly needed for homework i.e. laptop or iPad. This is their designated study space unless it is on a day when we have ballet, in which case, they do homework at the dining room table while I prepare dinner. That way I am nearby if they need any assistance.
I am usually working in my office while they complete their homework so I am right around the corner in case of any questions. As they finish each piece of homework, they bring it to me to look over. I do not correct their incorrect answers, but rather ask leading questions to redirect them towards the correct answer.
Don’t do it for them
I know a lot of parents who just get frustrated and do the homework for their child. Not me. Why would I? That cheats them out of learning something, burdens me with homework when I’ve already finished my schooling and teaches them to give up because someone else will cover if they can’t handle it.
Help them. Be available but they have to learn that anything and everything worth having takes hard work and dedication. You can be there to guide them and support them but doing it for them is doing your child a disservice.
Reward Good Work
When my daughters bring home good grades, I praise them. I never belittle them if they are below what I might expect. Of course, like my parents, my expectations are always A’s, but I always try to stay positive.
If they bring home a B, I say great job, next report we will get it up to an A and if you do we can do something special. I have no problem using incentives to get my kids to work hard for good grades. Just like in the real world, if you work hard you will be rewarded with success.
I want my girls to learn a strong work ethic and not be afraid to work for the things they want in the world.
What is your best homework habit for your child?
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What would you do if you suspected that your friend’s child had a learning disability? Would you feel comfortable enough to bring it up to friend or would you just ignore it? Either way, it seems like a hard choice to make.
On one hand, you are telling your friend that her child is imperfect and no one wants to believe that , never mind, hear it said out loud by someone else. Your other choice is to say nothing but that helps no one and seems a little cowardice. Sure, it may save you an uncomfortable conversation with your friend, but you are doing the child no favors at all.
You bringing it up may be the only thing that will get this kid the help he needs.
You may have a friend or family member who has a child who you notice may be struggling with normal developmental skills. It may not be anything you can exactly put your finger on. It may just be a hunch. If you notice it, the child’s parent probably notices it as well, but maybe they don’t.
Maybe they are too close to it. Maybe they are in denial. Maybe it’s their first baby and they have no point of reference and they can’t see it.
Always convey your concerns with care and support, never with judgment or pushy interference. Many parents are very sensitive about their parenting skills and will feel attacked. Sit your friend down in a non-threatening place, maybe meet for coffee, and just bring up that you have noticed a few things about little Johnny that indicate that he may have a slight delay.
Who knows? Maybe they are already aware of it and it is being handled. Maybe they have no idea what you are talking about. Maybe they feel it is none of your business or maybe they will be grateful that you said it out loud so that they don’t have to, and now they have someone to turn to for support through this situation. Or maybe they will be so mad and offended that they will scream and yell and walk away forever.
The main thing is that you approach them with no judgment and only care and support in your heart. If you have tried to gently bring up the subject with a friend or family member and they did not want to listen, maybe you just need to wait and bring it up again at a later date. Be supportive, but don’t mention the subject again.
The bottom line is that you brought it up. You tried to be an advocate for their child and even if they walk away, eventually they will realize that you came from a place of love for the child. Hopefully, they will not take offense and instead take your words into consideration and bring up the concerns to their pediatrician.
If the situation were reversed, would you want your friend or family member to say anything to you?
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