Are You Lying About Your Parenting Skills?

Posted on Dec 11, 2012 by 2 Comments
Are You Lying About Your Parenting Skills?

Do you ever fudge your parenting skills? By that I mean, do you make yourself out to be more experienced or skilled than you really are?

If so, you aren’t alone.

We live in competitive times and it can be a kick to your self-confidence to read posts by those perfect moms who create Bento Box lunches that are scale sized edible copies of a scene from Tangled before they stenciled their toilet paper.

Thank you, Martha Stewart.

It’s tempting to update Facebook with statuses that are… well… almost true. Sort of. We carefully craft those words so that others will think that we are amazing – and they will feel compelled to do the same. Eventually, everything that is written is fictional.

As a homeschooling mom, I have learned to do this with skill. The kids are just finishing up a quick cultural study on Japan.

Translated, that means that we have had an extremely hectic day and they got ramen for dinner.

It’s a gut response. I don’t think anyone intentionally lies about how they parent, but the temptation to have people think that you are amazing is huge. Is there really any harm in a little gilding the parenting lily?

There could be. There more dishonest that people are about their parenting experience, the bigger the potential for someone to crash and burn in the quest for perfection.

It’s like comparing yourself to one of the fake, computer enhanced models in a fashion magazine.  You can’t achieve it and it is depressing to try – but we attempt to look like them anyway.

Do you lie about your parenting and your lifestyle, or do you feel intimidated by others’ parenting skills? Comment below and I’ll check back. I am just on my way to sit down with the kids for their Italian lessons and then after that we are on our way downtown to hand out hand-knitted socks and hot soup to the homeless.

photo credit: Mike Licht, via photopin cc

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Marye Audet

Marye Audet is an author, freelance writer, and editor. As a work at home mom she has a unique perspective that encompasses the overwhelming deadlines and commitments of the professional woman as well as the constantly changing needs of a homeschooling mom with a large family. She is the author of one cook book and the creator of Restless Chipotle Media, a network consisting of two food based blogs, a blog for “women of a certain age”, a video site on Youtube, and upcoming blog on kitchen decor, and downloadable eBooks. Marye also is a freelance writer, editor, and book reviewer.

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  • Sls

    So true Marye. I just don’t talk anymore to anyone about anything. It makes me feel like a failure. My reality and what they describe their reality to be are on opposite ends of the universe.

  • marye

    The reality is that you are probably doing just fine.